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The Best Hair Option for Women with Alopecia

Although I am known as the Bald Beauty Queen of Self-Esteem, don’t let the name fool you. I still LOVE hair just as much as the next girl. If there was a cure for Alopecia Universalis that would allow me to grow my hair back, I would wait on line all day and night to get a dose! Over the years I have grown comfortable in my skin BUT I will always miss the joy of simply running my fingers through my hair or the relaxation I experienced when having it shampooed.

For a woman living with alopecia, it is nerve racking to manage the uncertainty of daily hair loss. Trying to find a style to cover up areas where spots are missing or very thin, can be a morning nightmare. Nothing is worse than feeling so insecure that you think everyone is looking at your missing hair, instead of paying attention to what you are saying. Even as an extrovert, I remember that I began to shrink in public to avoid any unnecessary interactions with people during my beginning stages of alopecia.

Hair is an important accessory that expresses your personality but it is NOT your identity. Trying to camouflage hair loss with braids that cause excessive pulling, weaves that require glue, and relaxers or chemicals is only going to expedite the hair loss process. Rebuilding the overall health of your hair naturally is the only choice to achieve long term results.  In the interim, if the hair loss gets so severe that you cannot find a style that is becoming, the BEST HAIR OPTION to look your best and boost your confidence, is to wear a great wig.

Fortunately in this day and age, wigs are very common whether you have hair loss or a full head of hair. There are so many fun and affordable options available that you can express your personality with a new style every day of the week. I wore wigs for many years before I ever considered being a bald beauty queen. I still wear wigs occasionally to change up my look and in lieu of a hat on cold winter days.   

Finding a good quality wig that is affordable can be a painful and expensive process. After many years of searching, I have finally found a great resource to make custom wigs for my ultra petite sized head. Couture Lace Crowns is owned and operated by fellow Alopecian, Nicole Wright. Her hair loss journey began when she was 19 years old and it cultivated in her a passion to help other women navigate this experience by creating wigs with our unique needs in mind. She offers customizable options and many different styles to meet your needs. Check out this beautiful human hair, glueless  snapback unit I am wearing. Since I prefer to wear my hair short, I paid a visit to my favorite hairdresser/ makeup artist extraordinaire Theresa Edwards. She cut and styled it to fit my face and match my personality. With the addition of a little makeup to highlight my natural beauty, I had a fun hair makeover that almost felt like the good old days! :-)  

Check out the beautiful units from Couture Lace Crowns at: http://www.couturelacecrowns.webs.com

If you live in the Triangle Area of NC and you are interested in having a makeup and/or hair make over, E-mail Theresa Edwards at AmoreBeautifulU@Yahoo.com

Sandra Dubose is the Bald Beauty Queen of Self-Esteem and former 2011 Mrs. Black North Carolina. Sandra is a nationally sought out inspirational speaker, liberation life coach, women’s health advocate and author of “My Crown and Glory, It’s NOT About the Hair.” Gleaning from her own life experiences, Sandra empowers women with the tools and strategies she has used to heal emotional wounds, build healthy self-esteem, and develop the courage to let their light shine from the inside-out. Learn more at www.SandraDubose.com 

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Why Should You Care About Natural Hair?

My alopecia (hair loss) experience began when I was 25 years old.

I literally woke up one day, and had a small bald spot the size of a dime behind my ear. There was no sign of breakage, scalp irritation, or even itching. The hair was simply gone and the little spot grew bigger and bigger with each passing day. Within a few weeks, I had a little “bald spot party” taking place on my scalp. If that sounds like a nightmare, it’s because it was one!

I was devastated when I learned that I had the autoimmune disease alopecia areata. For some unknown reason it causes your body to randomly attack your healthy hair follicles from the root, and oh by the way, there is NO cure! I wasn’t even sick, so a diagnosis of a disease caught me completely off guard. Before that moment, my hair had been a big attribute to my overall feeling of confidence with my self-image.  I kept my hair looking nice and I got compliments regularly on my cute, short, sassy style that matched my personality.

When faced with the experience of watching my hair fall out daily, painlessly from the root, I was afraid to put any chemicals in my hair. I did not want to make a bad situation, worse. In an effort to prevent further damage, I was FORCED to go natural. I had no idea what to do with my natural hair, especially since there were round patches of it obviously missing. Braided extensions and weaves would only cause further damage by adding additional pressure to the root. It was a desperate time for me and the safest thing I could do was to wear a wig to cover up my patchy afro. Underneath it, I looked and felt a mess! The experience felt like cruel and unusual punishment to go from being sexy and sassy, to feeling like an ugly duckling.

After one miserable year, when 50% of my hair had already fallen out, it miraculously began to grow back. The cortisone injections and creams did not work for me but the disease went into remission and my hair began to return just as quickly as it went away. For the moment, my prayers had been answered and I was ecstatic! It was an awakening for me to realize how important my hair was to me. I realized that I took my hair for granted over the years unconsciously using relaxers, hot combing and dying my hair with NO thought for the overall health of my hair. Now that it had returned, I was not going to do anything to compromise it by reverting back to my old hair care practices. I was a natural woman and I intended to stay that way. The experience taught me the importance of true self-acceptance and the power of my hair as an African American woman. I had to look back at our journey through the eyes of my ancestors and the role hair played historically in the perpetuation of self hatred that was taught to us, and the need to cover up the authentic expression of ourselves.

As my hair grew back I locked it. I fell in love with my locks and myself in a brand new way. I realized that I was still cute, sexy and sassy but now even more because I knew who I was. I had the joy of freedom now that I was no longer afraid to get caught in the rain for fear that my hair would get wet and ruin my hair style. I had no concern for scalp burns from over processing or touch ups in the nape of the neck when my natural state would pose a threat of returning.

Unfortunately, my alopecia did return and progressed to complete hair loss all over my entire body. Aside from having to shave off a few stubborn patches of hair that still grow in, hair has been a non issue for me for the past 10 years. I have learned how to live comfortably in my skin as a bald woman. Whether you have hair or not, the real benefit of going natural is the experience of liberation into a deeper level of self-love, self- acceptance and self-expression just as you are. Hair is fun and does not have to be a headache. As African American women, there are tons of things we can do with our hair whether we buy it or work with what God has given us. Beauty does not look one way. It is a colorful rainbow with limitless expressions. The time has come for us to change the dynamic in our culture and break the cycle of unhealthy hair care practices that has been passed down from generation to generation. God bless our ancestors for their innovation and creativity but we now know that chemically altering our natural state has had long term damaging effects to our scalp and in silencing our authentic voice.

Let your hair be an expression of who you really are. If you are challenged with hair loss, buy some hair that does express who you are OR stand up with me and shout, “Say it loud…. I’m BALD and I’m PROUD!” Whatever you do, be all the way you. ;-)

Post your comments below. I would love to hear your feedback and your natural hair stories.   

Join me as I sit as a guest panelist joined by some of the best Natural Hair Stylists, Fashion Designers, Health Enthusiasts, and Community Icons in the South East at the Neo Naturalz Hair Convention in Greensboro NC.

For more information, and to register visit THIS LINK.  

Sandra Dubose is the Bald Beauty Queen of Self-Esteem and former 2011 Mrs. Black North Carolina. Sandra is a nationally sought out inspirational speaker, liberation life coach, women’s health advocate and author of “My Crown and Glory, It’s NOT About the Hair.” Gleaning from her own life experiences, Sandra empowers women with the tools and strategies she has used to heal emotional wounds, build healthy self-esteem, and develop the courage to let their light shine from the inside-out.  Learn more at  

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My Crown and Glory Holiday Special

Tis the season to be inspired, motivated and prepared for the brand new year!

Give the priceless gift of Inspiration this holiday to yourself and to a loved one.

Take advantage of this limited time offer to receive a PERSONALIZED, AUTOGRAPHED copy of “My Crown and Glory.”

Gift wrapping is optional but included at your request, all for a discounted rate of ONLY $12. (plus shipping and tax)

Order your copy today via Paypal and receive it right in time for Holiday gift giving.

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Liberation Life Coach Launch

Jump Start Your 2013 Success Plan Today!

You never know where life is going to take you, and that is what makes it such an exciting adventure. When you open yourself up to the possibilities, you begin to look forward to every single day to explore all of the greatness that is inside of you. But sometimes, you we get stuck in a place where it feels like we are not making progress and moving forward. Instead it feels as if we are just treading water or maybe even moving backwards. There are several reasons why we can find ourselves in that place, especially when challenged with circumstances beyond our control. We get discouraged and emotionally and mentally overwhelmed but we cannot afford to give up the fight or give in to mediocrity. Life is too short to waist time not living up to our fullest potential. Freedom is not FREE and the road to greatness is often filled with roadblocks you will have to maneuver past. Being stuck in a rut of any kind is never a comfortable position for anyone to be in; trust me, I have been there. As a result of it, I have learned firsthand how to navigate my way out, and into a place of LIBERATION and  I want to help you do the same. So, are you ready to get UNSTUCK and liberated from the issues that are holding you captive? Well have no fear, help is here.

With 2013 quickly approaching, now is the perfect time to get focused on your goals and maybe even complete the goals you originally set for 2012. You still have time, and now you can have one on one help directly from the Liberation Life Coach. Make the investment in your self-development today, the payoff will bring you a lifetime of interest!

Check out my website to learn more and sign up for your FREE 30 minute consultation right away. www.SandraDubose.com/LifeCoach

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My Crown and Glory, A Healing Dialogue

My Crown and Glory, It’s NOT About the Hair Available Now on Amazon AND Kindle

My Crown and Glory is not just any old good read. It is a conversation piece created intentionally to ignite a fire inside of the reader. This fire will cause you to think about your life from a brand new perspective and give you the courage to make the changes necessary to create your best life.

  • Are you carrying around old emotional baggage that is inhibiting you from experiencing freedom in your life?
  • Are you harboring hatred in your heart, unable to forgive someone who may have hurt you in the past?
  • Have you been living a lie? Hiding, pretending and going through the motions instead of telling the absolute truth about who you are and what you really want?
  • Have you truly accepted yourself and LOVE yourself just as you are, flaws and all?

I know these are some pretty heavy questions but the truth revealed in the answers will set you free! These are the topics that are addressed in My Crown and Glory, and I am making myself available for a FREE Q & A Conference Call to facilitate the start of what is sure to be a healing dialogue for many.  Get caught up on the book ASAP and invite your friends to do the same. Join me on Thursday, 10-11-12 at 7:30 PM for this special heart to heart conversation.

I Look forward to answering your questions, hearing your comments and inspiring testimonials.

To receive the dial in information, join my e-mail list today at www.SandraDubose.com

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Alopecia Awareness Month

SEPTEMBER IS ALOPECIA AWARENESS MONTH

Song in my heart - CroppedIn honor of Alopecia Awareness Month, for the FIRST TIME EVER, I am publishing a picture of me with NO MAKE-UP (except lipstick of course). I can’t do anything without my lips on. One step at a time. lol.

Ladies, I want to encourage you to move past the shame of hair loss and into personal freedom. So many of us who are dealing with unwanted changes to our body image begin to shrink, living with embarrassment and insecurity. We look in the mirror and no longer recognize the woman staring back at us. She becomes a distant friend that we would rather not see until that glorious day when she changes back to the way she used to be. When living with alopecia areata, that reality is unpredictable. The hair may grow back but for some people, it can fall out again. That is the uncomfortable reality we face and everyone’s journey will be different. The truth that remains constant for all of us, is that we have to learn to love and accept ourselves, just as we are with or without hair. We cannot live the rest of our lives with low self-esteem. That will  directly compromises the quality of our entire life, and relationships. Don’t settle for that! We have to fight back by redefining the value we place on hair and appreciating our true self beyond the flaws.

I want you to know that I am no different than you. I wake up every morning for the past 13 years, look in my mirror and I have to accept the things I cannot change. I draw on my eyebrows, glue on my eyelashes and adorn my face with a smile, even when it hurts. I embrace my inner beauty queen because I did not choose to have alopecia but I did CHOOSE to not let it rob me of my self-esteem anymore!

You have that same option, and this month I want you to OWN your power and let me help you re-build your self-esteem. My Crown and Glory is a book that will guide you through the Six Fundamental Principles to Heal Emotional Wounds and Build Healthy Self-Esteem. I have created a resource to help you experience personal liberation, and I know it will change your life because it changed mine. Now is the sacred time to move forward and reconnect with the man/woman in your mirror. You are deserving of love and that begins and ends with you.

It is time to sing your heart song and celebrate the fact that you are a beautiful soul inside and out. You were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within you in spite of your challenges.

What is the best way to celebrate Alopecia Awareness month? By celebrating yourself just as you are, perfectly and wondrously made.

Wake up my sleeping beauty queens……the world awaits you. :-)

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Featured Luminary for Inspire Me Today

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Inspire Me Today

Sharing My 500 Words of Wisdom

I’m so excited to share some great news with you. On Thursday, September 6,2012. I will be the featured Inspirational Luminary on InspireMeToday.com, sharing my wisdom with the world. This FREE website is one to bookmark! Inspire Me Today features the ‘Brilliance’ of a new Luminary every day. You can start your day with the wisdom of Sir Richard Branson, Guy Laliberte, Seth Godin, Neale Donald Walsch, Marci Shimoff, or one of hundreds more, now including me. I’m so honored to be with such esteemed company!

To help you stay inspired, you can sign up to receive this 3 minute ‘Today’s Brilliance’ pick-me-up each day by email, by RSS feed or as an iPhone app. You can even subscribe to it on the new Google Currents. Please visit the site on September 6TH and help me inspire the world. If my traffic and comments break records, InspireMeToday.com will share my content with millions of additional people too! I hope you’ll check it out, leave a comment and share it with your friends. From the folks at Inspire Me Today and from me, thank you in advance for your kind support. I know you’re going to love InspireMeToday.com! Together we really can inspire the world.
Be inspired,

Sandra Dubose

The Bald Beauty Queen of Self-Esteem

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My Crown and Glory Book Now Available on Amazon

“My Crown and Glory, It’s Not About the Hair.”

Six Fundamental Principles to Heal Emotional

Wounds and Build Healthy Self Esteem

By: Sandra Dubose

My Crown and Glory Synopsis:

“The first real gun I ever saw was the shotgun pointed at the head of my beloved high school sweetheart.”

From the first shaky moments of her escape from an abusive relationship and her crippling battle with low self-esteem, My Crown and Glory—It’s Not About the Hair, follows Sandra Dubose through her incredible journey from an emotionally scarred teenager to strong, self-assured “bald beauty queen.” Sandra shoots from the hip, and through her candid storytelling, she bravely opens her life and her heart to those struggling through life’s trials. These are the chronicles of her triumph over the challenges she faced after ITP autoimmune disease threatened her health and Alopecia Areata left her without hair. Her message rests squarely upon the power and grace of spiritual connection to forge new pathways to personal growth and transformation. Sandra’s story will resonate with anyone who has felt broken by life’s circumstances, and her outline for achieving healing, redemption and happiness offers others a guiding hand through the hardest moments of their own journeys.

The Six Fundamental Principles:

  1. Healing the Inner Child

  2. Owning Your Power

  3. Tapping the spirit within

  4. The Practice of Forgiveness

  5. Defining Success for Yourself

  6. Developing an Attitude of Gratitude

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Alopecia Awareness FREE Concert

Watch the FREE concert LIVE online!
Saturday, Sept. 1st at 7:30 PM
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An Attitude of Gratitude

Excerpt of Principle 6: An Attitude of Gratitude

“My mom and I were so happy, and as we traveled to the hospital she told me how much it scared her to see my dad get so sick. We knew that Lupus had the potential to be fatal, but that was the exception and not the rule. Although it was definitely taking a toll on him, Dad had only been living with Lupus for four years.

My parents made so many exciting plans for their future once they owned their time and did not have to punch a clock at work anymore. After they retired, they planned to settle into their new home in South Carolina and finally do some traveling. One of their biggest dreams was to catch a flight, and finally visit a Caribbean island, like the beautiful, all-inclusive resorts in the vacation brochures, that make you want to jump right into the picture. As long as my father stayed healthy enough to keep moving, they were going to live it up after all their years of hard work.

Mom and I walked into the hospital, only stopping to get a visitor’s pass. We stepped off the elevator on the 4th floor and headed towards Dad’s room, giving a wave hello to the nurse’s at the station as we walked by. It was a normal day of business as usual, and everything seemed peaceful and in order on that floor. Dad was not in the ICU or any special unit. He had a regular room all to himself with no need for monitors or funky tubes to aid in his recovery. He was starting to feel better already and it looked like he would be going home soon.”

In Everything Give Thanks

There will inevitably be moments in our lives that rock our world, causing us to get a grip on life and appreciate the things that are most important. Even through pain and sorrow, there is an opportunity to shift your attitude to a place of gratitude. Focusing on the positive is a healing mechanism that wards off sadness that can lead to depression. We make the decision to wallow in grief or find ways to pick ourselves up and adjust our eyes to see the rainbow that is always present after the rain. In Principle 6, we will look at the power that lies in adapting an attitude of gratitude, even when it hurts.

My Crown and Glory will launch on September 1, 2012 and will be available to purchase on Amazon for $14.95. Currently I am offering a special PRE-ORDER Deal for ONLY$10 plus tax and shipping for a personalized autographed copy. This offer will end on August 31st so take advantage of it today. To show my appreciation as a BONUS, I will send you A FREE MP3 Download of my original song, “Thank You” from the “My Alopecia Experience, Project Liberation Soundtrack.”

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